Russian Girls Dating

Last night was an interesting evening as a friend / client went on a fun date with two Russian girls he had met a month ago at the Istanbul airport. When in the airport, he noticed them, and then upon arriving here in Odessa Ukraine, he recognized them when he was searching through a Ukrainian girls database of pictures. So, as a fun diversion, he asked if he could meet them and take them out.

Up to this point, he has already been on dates with 11 Russian girls and he is pretty much done trying to find a girl as he feels each and every Russian girl has been great, he just wants to find one Russian girl to settle on and start a relationship with.

So, when he met those two Russian girls, they were sisters, they immediately asked him if he wanted to go to The Steak House. The Steak House is one of the most expensive restaurants here in Odessa Ukraine. He said he started laughing inside his own head. And, when I got off of work about 30 minutes later, he invited me to join them. I brought an English teacher friend of mine that I work with. She is an amazing Russian girl and I adore her. In fact, I would marry her if she were interested, but alas, she is not. She is as generous as the day is long in the summertime. She hates accepting gifts or free meals from others, and was determined to pay for her meal at the Steak House.

So, anyway, we started talking, and the two sisters were shocked that I spoke a little Russian. I tried not to speak English for the first few minutes. Then, they asked me what I do, and how me and my friend knew each other. so, I told them I had been in Odessa for almost four years, and that I taught English and that I had written a book on the mentality, thought process, and psychology of Ukrainian girls. They started insulting me right away and I just took it in stride. No problem. I have experienced this before. I am used to starting out with no credibility.

As we talked further, the most forward of the two girls asked me what I thought of her, and without thinking, I said, "You remind me of a professional dater".

She immediately got upset, and proceeded to insult me and put me down and be insanely sarcastic over the next hour or so. Again, I have already dealt with this type of cynicism, so I took it in stride, never got upset, never felt the need to defend myself, and I continued to give it back to her little by little. As I've stated in other blog posts and in my book, if a man is not respected by a Ukrainian or Russian girl, she will l never stay with him. So, I let her know that I could insult her back, but then I backed off once I felt the message was sent.

She wouldn't let up, so I stated, "That's now 7 times you have insulted me. That's ok."

She was mock laughing stating, "You've counted?!?"

I said, "I can't help it when that much attacking energy comes at me. I get it, I would love your opinion on my writing as I know I can always learn something new. If you could give me a new point of view, I'd be grateful." Of course, up to this point, she doesn't realize that the knowledge and information in my book came from other people, not from me. I have spent thousands of ours interviewing others in order to present informed decisions and provide the broadest possible information on the topic.

By the end of the night, this Russian girl actually began to change here tune. She saw my sincerity, my knowledge, and I believe I had actually even gained a little credibility in her mind. We walked around to take my friend Anya to her car, and then walk the girls to a good place to take a taxi home (instead of taking a taxi directly from the center. Walking just three blocks can cut the price down from $10 to about $4.)

This Russian girl even gave me a kiss on the cheek when she left. Being with real western men shocked her, and may have even softened her up a bit. I am grateful to say that my friend and I actually might have had a positive influence on a couple of Russian girls. 

Russian Wedding

Originally Posted August 12, 2012

I went to a Russian wedding today. It was not a traditional Russian wedding per se. However, it was amazing. You are going to have to forgive me. I have transformed from one of those guys that dislocates his shoulder, grimaces, and continues playing; into one of those guys that can shed a tear at the smallest thing. The Ukrainian girl who got married was a very dear friend of mine.

We have known each other from the first day I arrived in Ukraine, and has been both a stern figure over me, as well as a willing student under me. That is a rare combination. We have had many, many conversations about her man, her relationships, and her goals in life. I was truly humbled and honored to be a part of this wedding. I was the only native speaking English person there. No, I am not from England, I am from the United States, but I am still a native speaker.

The bride and groom were actually socializing when I got there. I was a little late, fashionably of course. Then, after about 20 minutes, the ceremony started. The wedding was on the grounds of a local museum. It was really cool. The Ukrainian girl who planned and set the whole wedding up did an amazing job. The main colors were white, lavender, and well, more lavender.

After the ceremony, there was food and alcohol, and more food, and more food. The Ukrainian bride's father, who cannot speak a lick of English by the way, was attracted to me like a moth to flame for some reason. His sister is married to an Englishman and lives in England. So, for the first 90 minutes he was under the impression that I was from England. Then, when he found out that I was from America, he changed tunes, but he was speaking to me in Russian as if I understood. I understood about half the words, and when I would get someone to help me translate, they didn't really know what the heck this guy was talking about. He wanted to take me to Crimea and have a vacation with me, drinking cognac, and sitting by the sea talking. While that would be fun, I don't think it would be that much fun with him as I still cannot understand enough Russian language to truly make the experience fun.

The Russian wedding ceremony was short. The groom had been married before, and the bride is very practical, however, I have to say that she looked insanely beautiful! Her dress was just stunning. After that, Russian men have this habit of getting in front of the microphone and waxing poetic. It was funny as one guy got up there three different times, and just talked, and talked, and talked. Too funny.

Then, three traditional Ukrainian girls came dressed in traditional Ukrainian dancing outfits and danced for us.  That was cool to watch. After that, we proceeded into an art gallery where there was a live pianist. There were a ridiculous amount of cool Russian photos of old communist Russia as well as well as a lot of relatively, post modern photos of Gorbachov, Reagan, Brezhnev, and many others. It was cool to see how Russian girls wore old fashioned bathing suits in the 50s.

I got to talk to a cool Ukrainian girl who lives in England and is almost completely fluent. She couldn't really tell me how to say, ""it's good that you can admit that" in Russian language. It is not something that is normally said in the Russian language. However, she figured it out. I wish I could remember the exact way to say it, but that is part of the process for me, remembering the way to speak Russian.

Overall, I was in awe. I met a couple of great girls I would happily go out with. The photographer was long, lean, brunetka, and pretty, but she has a boyfriend. So, it wasn't meant to be. I enjoyed my first Russian wedding. I went to one other Russian wedding about a year ago, but that was not traditional either. That Russian wedding was a short ceremony at the courthouse with a cool reception at a cool restaurant afterward.

Russian Girls Beware

My friend is visiting from America and three days ago, he was out and about and met a Russian girl. He thought she was cute, but the reality is she pursued him. They talked for a few minutes and she invited him to hang out with him that evening. So, then this Russian girl asks him if he will pay for her taxi. He thinks she means when she comes back to the center for their date. He thinks, 'no problem, I'll pay for her taxi'. So, he says yes.

However, she kept asking, "are you going to pay for my taxi?" This happened about 6 times, before she finally said, "ok, I go now." So, then, he figured out she wanted taxi money for right now. So, he starts smiling, and reaches into his pocket, thinking, "I'm just making a donation, this is ok." However, this Russian girl says, "Give me 80 grivna please (about $10)."

My friend knows that a person can get almost anywhere in the city for 25 to 30 grivna (about $3 to $4). So, he reaches into his pocket and pulls out 40 grivna (about $5) and gives it to her. He said she looked at him with a shocked look and said, "this isn't 80 grivna? I said 80 grivna!"

He said with a smile, "Oh, that's all I have. If you don't want it, you can give it back to me." Of course, she said no, took the money, and went home.

This Russian girl's name is Yulia. She invited him out that evening to karaoke and told him he should bring a friend.He invited me, and about 9:30, I took him to meet a friend of mine and his friend, a guy from England at a well known place called the Irish Pub. Although the food or service isn't great, it is popular among foreigners. So, we were there having a beer with these two guys and Yulia calls. My friend hands me the phone and I start to talk to her in Russian. She asks me if I know a restaurant called Fancone. Well, Fancone is one of the more expensive restaurants in the city center. I said I knew it, but I rarely went there since it was so expensive. I told her she could come to the Irish Pub, join us, and then we would decide where to go from there. I also asked her if she was going to bring a friend. This is when she told me she had gone to the gym today and she was tired. I didn't understand why she was saying that, and then she said she was going to stay home and not come to the city center this evening because she was too tired. This Russian girl realized that I was not easy to trick, and that I was not going to bend over backward in order to give her money the same way my friend had, she backed off and decided not to come.

Some Russian girls can be so money hungry that it is not very attractive. My friend even told me, "if she had just waited a few hours, I would have gladly paid for everything, but she went for the throat right away." Too funny Russian girls. 

Russian Girls

I remember after my business had failed, sitting at my desk of a new job in January of 2005. I don't know what prompted me to search, but I somehow found myself on a Russian dating and marriage website full of beautiful Russian girls. I spent four hours just perusing the pages of enormously gorgeous Russian girls. I really didn't know what to think. But, my mind began dreaming of the day I would have a beautiful Russian girl on my arm. Believe it or not, I never thought about a Russian girl again for 3 full years after that day.

I understand how the male brain works. I had a friend who was about 40 in 2005, and in the three years I had known him, he had had two beautiful, thin, sexy, young (early 20s) girlfriends. Even though I had no desire to model my life after his, I can tell you I looked up to him for this. I knew I had no money to take care of a girl at that time. In fact, I bounced around from job to job for a 36 month period prior to moving to Ukraine.

Then again in January of 2008, I remember living at a friend's house, watching a television show, and I decided I was ready to get back on the horse. I had only had one girlfriend over the previous 36 months, and that was long distance for only a month. I remember deciding I no longer wanted anything to do with American women and narrowed my search down to Chinese girls or Russian girls. While I thought Asian women were tall, thin, and sexy, I my heart truly belonged to Russian girls.

Now, almost 4 years later, I am 100% certain Russian girls captured my heart long ago. I have lived in a Russian speaking country for more than three and a half years, and I can do all basic communication in the Russian language. I studied the mentality of Russian girls, and have been studying human behavior as well as relationships between men and women for more than 16 years. Despite the fact that cultural differences and differences in thinking will make a relationship with a Russian girl difficult, I am determined to continue to learn and improve myself until this success is guaranteed.

The only true concern is how to navigate through all of the different Russian girl dating websites and marriage agencies who claim Russian girls are just dying to leave their home country and marry a western man like me. Having lived here and gotten to know Russian girls, I promise you, 95% of Russian girls are not dying to leave their home country.